How to Be Yourself
Be Yourself Quotes
In the article Top 5 Changes Meditation Demands from You, number 5 was becoming a rebel and I suspect that if you try to just be yourself and follow the suggestions in this article on how to do that, some rebellion against the norm, against society will be inevitable. It is quite possible that you will end up rocking the boat a little.
First off, it should be quite alarming that it has become so hard to just be who you are. I mean, that should require nothing, because you are already who you are. But unfortunately we have been so contaminated and are so lost in the borrowed mind of ego-centric obsession, that we can no longer simply be ourselves.
We are suffering a lot by taking this road of endless self gratification, but unfortunately we are now so immersed in this pattern of thinking, that it has become difficult to change directions. The orientation required is, of course, to just be and forget about becoming, but our attachments and material desires keep us forever occupied, deluded and in constant seeking.
In the end, we have sacrificed our peace and our natural selves, for a few fleeting pleasures and mountains of useless stuff, but thankfully we have the guidance of great masters who can point us back to the road to serenity, harmony and ourselves.
The following quote on just being yourself, different and original, is a great source of wisdom and inspiration. It comes from the Tao Te Ching and the teaching of Master Lao-tzu.
Book: Tao Te Ching
Author: Stephen Mitchell
Stop thinking, and end your problems.
What difference between yes and no?
What difference between success and failure?
Must you value what others value,
avoid what others avoid?
Other people are excited,
as though they were at a parade.
I alone don’t care,
I alone am expressionless,
like an infant before it can smile.
Other people have what they need;
I alone possess nothing.
I alone drift about,
like someone without a home.
I am like an idiot, my mind is so empty.
Other people are bright;
I alone am dark.
Other people are sharp;
I alone am dull.
Other people have a purpose;
I alone don’t know.
I drift like a wave on the ocean,
I blow as aimless as the wind.
I am different from ordinary people.
I drink from the Great Mother’s breasts.
Analysis of How to Simply Be Yourself:
So from the above quote I think the following 3 aspects stand out and point you in the direction of how you can be yourself.
1. Be Simple:
As you move deeper into spirituality, you will find a very strange thing. The evolution is not a process of adding, but it is a process of subtracting. When you get rid of all the garbage, you find that everything was already perfect and that there was never anything lacking in the first place. Your job is not to add anything, but simply to throw out all the false that has been added to you.
This is what is meant by emptying the mind and stopping thinking. Get rid of all the brain washing that has been done, all the conditioning that has been imposed and just be simple and innocent. We have become much too clever, mental and deceptive for our own good. So the first step to becoming yourself again is to be simple and live simply.
2. Be Spontaneous:
Being simple allows you to be spontaneous. As Lao-tzu says, he is adrift, going where the waves and winds carry him. He goes with the flow, instead of trying to control things and be result oriented. He is just doing what needs to be done and letting go of the rest.
This allows you to be at ease with your natural self and natural responses. Trust them, trust yourself and trust the Universe.
3. Be Original:
Don’t be afraid to be different and don’t be afraid to be yourself. No one is greater than you, holier than you or has the right to tell you how to live. Have confidence in yourself and your ability to find your way out of this mess, find your way back to the Source.
Just being able to stand alone and reject all others, will give you great power. And this power is not the egotistical kind, it is the power of knowing that you are approaching, exploring and touching life directly with your own mind and heart. Then your questions will be your own and your own intuitive nature will be activated and become your guidance system. Also, you will go from being just an imitation to being your own unique self.
That is enlightenment. Just being your natural self. That is why it is said that you are already enlightened, because at the end nothing is gained, you simply return to your original nature.