How to Stop Negative Thinking and Overcome Negative Thoughts

How To Eliminate Negative Thinking

Today’s guest article is a must read article for all.  It is an excellent guide on how to change your negative thought patterns and overcome negative thinking.  In this guide you will find 10 timeless techniques to help you stop negative thinking and adopt a positive and peaceful state of mind.  This article is by Yachna Tyagi, who is simply a marvelous blogger and an expert yogi.  She is a deeply spiritual person and is the author of Yachna Yoga, which is a wonderful resource for Yoga, Meditation and Pranayama.  I highly recommend stopping by and checking out her site and teachings.

Yachna is also a graduate of the Mastery of Yoga Instructor Training Program and if you would like more information on that program you can find that on the following website Online Yoga Teacher Training.

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You Are What You Think


Yachna Tyagi

Thinking is a natural process.  From the time we wake up till the time we go to bed, incessant thoughts robotically arise and subside in our mind without any respite.  Majority of these thoughts are useless and negative.  They deplete us of our energy and lead to stress, restlessness, anxiety, depression, mental fatigue and poor health.  Occasional negative thoughts are normal, but when negative thoughts occur to the extent that they begin to affect physical and mental health and keep an individual from leading a normal healthy life, it should be considered a warning sign that needs to be addressed.  

Life changing stressful events can create negative thoughts that lead to fears, anxieties and depression.  Depression in turn breeds more negative thoughts.  Before you know it one is caught up in the vicious cycle of sickness and negative thoughts where one serves as fodder for the other.  Repeated negative thoughts over time become habitual and soon negative thoughts just pop into the mind, without the need of any outside triggers.  Such thoughts are termed automatic negative thoughts.  Most often these thoughts are irrational and are based on assumption.  They lack factual backing and objectivity.  Such thinking is referred to as cognitive distortion. They cloud our judgment, mislead us into doing regrettable actions and delude us into viewing things in a negative light. 

Repetitive negative thoughts disturb the natural flow of Prana in our body.  This results in energy blockages and imbalances.  Wherever there is an energy blockage, there is an accumulation of toxins and wherever there is an accumulation of toxins there is sickness and disease.  Negative emotions and thoughts such as jealousy, anger, hatred, fear, and revenge damages the heart chakra and manifests as disease in the organs and tissues governed by the heart chakra, leading to immune system disorders, lung disorders, heart conditions, etc.  Cultivating the opposite emotions of love, forgiveness, compassion and acceptance help heal and balance the heart chakra.  Similarly lying, gossiping, criticizing, and suppressing one’s emotions leads to an imbalance of the throat chakra which manifests as disease in organs and tissues in the throat region such as the larynx and the thyroid. Healthy thoughts are indispensible to a healthy mind and body.  Whether one is seeking treatment, through western medicine or through holistic techniques like reiki, yoga, pranayam, homeopath, and ayurveda, trying to consciously cultivate positive thinking will help one work harmoniously with their treatment and help them heal faster. The quality of the life one lives and the quality of health one has are all a result of thoughts because everything we do or say has its origin in thought. 

6 Common Signs of Negative Thinking:

1. Internal chatter:

You find yourself engaged in destructive internal chatter and tend to replay negative events from your past or play out negative imaginary events and conversations with people.

2. Suspicious:

You tend to be suspicious of the motives of people and suspect that there is a hidden agenda behind everything people say or do.

3. Cynical:  

You have a tendency of focusing only on the negative aspects of people and are into fault finding, whether real or imaginary.  You find it hard to focus on the positive aspects of people and are always criticizing them, for their mannerisms, their looks, their clothes, their choices and decisions.

4. Sarcastic:

You make snide personal attacks on people under the guise of being funny and then evade consequences by stating that you were just joking.

5. Gossiping:

When you share a personal story with someone with the intention of easing your sorrow and finding some respite it is not gossiping, but when you take pleasure in recycling a story over and over again and embellishing it by magnifying negative aspects of the story and playing down the positive ones, in order to justify your position, that qualifies as gossip.  While gossiping might provide you a temporary outlet to vent and also give you some momentary sense of satisfaction, it actually stirs up more negative emotions, and leaves you feeling worse than before. If you absolutely must gossip, then gossip about something good. 

6. Fearing the worst:

You see danger in even simple day to day mundane activities and tend to play out events in your mind by imagining the worst possible scenarios and outcomes. 

How to Stop Negative Thinking | 10 Techniques

According to the Dalai Lama-“Our negative emotions are so powerful that constant effort is needed in order to counteract them. If we practice constantly, then we can definitely change.” While there is no one panacea to completely get rid of negative thoughts, there are tools available to help guide one towards a more positive path:

  • Acceptance:  It is important to understanding and accept that what we are today is a result of our own actions and the choices we made, since all our actions and choices have their origin in our thoughts.  There are things that are out of our control that we cannot change and then there are things that we can change.  Focus your energies on the things that you can change.  Quit wrestling with life and learn to go with the flow. Negative thoughts of jealousy and hatred are merely a reflection of one’s own insecurities. For example: if one has always struggled with weight, they would tend to look at all slim people with jealousy and dislike.  If one does not feel beautiful, they will perceive beautiful people as conceited and will purposely ignore them.  If someone is wealthy, then the financially insecure, will naturally perceive such people as being arrogant and will try to put them down in order to level the playing field for themselves.  There is a beautiful serenity prayer by Reinhold Niebuhr that helps one gain strength, peace, perspective and acceptance –

                  “God grant me the serenity
                   to accept the things I cannot change;
                   courage to change the things I can;
                   and wisdom to know the difference.”

“We cannot direct the wind but we can adjust the sails.” ~Author Unknown


  • Attitude: The mental attitude with which you begin your day is a good indicator of how the rest of your day would go.  Take a mental note of your attitude and feelings when you wake up in the morning. What is the quality of the thoughts that run through your mind? Is it one of anger, self pity and unhappiness or one of gratitude, contentment and hope? Does your mind feel agitated or does it feel calm? Are you dreading the day or looking forward to it? Once you have answered these questions for yourself, you will realize that it is actually your own attitude that determines the course of your day and not the people and circumstances surrounding you. It is very important to remember that the first 5-10 minutes of every morning are crucial in establishing that positive frame of mind. So do a ‘thought quality check’ and smile first thing in the morning.         
“You must start with a positive attitude or you will surely end without one.” ~Carrie Latet


  • Analysis:Analyze your thoughts closely. Every time a negative thought comes into your mind, ask yourself if it is real or imaginary; whether it is based on fact or assumption.  Toss out all thoughts that have no factual basis. If a thought is based on fact, ask yourself if it is toxic or healthy.  If it is toxic don’t fuel it.  Remind yourself that this thought contributes nothing towards your good health and happiness and then let it go.
“It isn’t our position but our disposition which makes us happy.” Author Unknown


  • Counter negative thoughts, words and actions:According to Patanjali- “Improper thoughts and actions of violence done directly or indirectly and which are caused by anger, delusion or greed, in any degree whatsoever always result in unending pain and misery.”  When the mind is disturbed by improper thoughts or emotions, one can help restore the peace of mind by contemplating on the opposite thought or emotion.” So one would counter the emotions of hatred with love, anger with peace, vice with indifference and misery with compassion. Try to put yourself into the practice of using only positive words. Replace negative words, with positive ones. Using negative and harsh words will only add to your already agitated state of mind and leave you depleted.  Think before you speak. In a nutshell, if you have nothing good to say, don’t say it. If a negative thought arises, do not fuel it. Don’t criticize or judge anyone, including your self.  Be responsible for the energy you bring into a space.  Remember, when you wish good for someone from the bottom of your heart it has a positive effect on you and when you project hatred and jealousy it only returns to you with greater force.


“All that we are is the result of what we have thought. If a man speaks or acts with an evil thought, pain follows him. If a man speaks or acts with a pure thought, happiness follows him, like a shadow that never leaves him.”~ Gautam Buddha


  • Live in the moment:  By no means should this be misconstrued as an excuse to adopt an irresponsible, overindulgent or unhealthy lifestyle.  The key message here is to learn to enjoy life in the moment without mentally spacing out. Almost all of us are guilty of living our lives in the past or in the future.  Dwelling in the past only brings anger and disappointment and worrying about the future only brings anxiety.  Learn to develop awareness in everything you do, instead of doing it mechanically.  If you ever notice yourself feeling agitated, or if you feel a tense moment coming up, bring your attention immediately to your breath and any tense spots in your body.  Breathing tends to become shallow during stressful moments. Most of the tension tends to reside in the third eye region, the throat, jaws, the solar plexus, and inner thighs.  Immediately revert to the slow relaxed deep breathing while keeping your focus on your inhalation and exhalation. Completely relax your body. Succumb to gravity. Slow down your daily pace. Your breath, mind and body are like cog wheels. What happens to one affects the other two.  A gentle breath equates to a calm mind, which equates to gentle words and actions and vice versa. Similarly, an agitated breath equates to an agitated mind, which equates to harsh words and regrettable actions.  Our breath operates only in the present moment; not in the past and not in the future.   Hence focusing on one’s breath can help steer the mind back to the present. As simple as it sounds, this will of course require skill and sincere practice of awareness and implementation.


“The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, worry about the future, or anticipate troubles, but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly.” ~ Gautam Buddha


  • Resolve past issues:Suppression of emotions and not speaking up leads to resentment.  Repressed emotions tend to resurface sooner or later when an event triggers the memory.  If possible it is best to resolve past issues in a civil manner with the people involved.  If too much is at stake and this is not an option then writing about it in a journal can prove highly cathartic.  Writing will purge your mind of the burden of carrying these thoughts with you everyday.


“If you wish to travel far and fast, travel light. Take off all your envies, jealousies, unforgiveness, selfishness, and fears.”~ Glenn Clark, Author


  • Express Gratitude: Learn to practice gratitude in everyday life.  There are two ways of doing this-being grateful for all the wonderful things you have and being grateful for all the pain and suffering that you do not have. Think of all the problems people around you have, that you don’t. Ask yourself if you would be willing to trade places with someone and take on their pain and suffering in exchange for yours. 
“If you don’t get everything you want, think of the things you don’t get that you don’t want. ~ Oscar Wilde




  • Seek Positivity:Surround yourself with positive people.  Read books and articles that promote positivity and inspire you to stay positive.   Don’t take seriously anything that negative people say to you as they only speak from their own insecurities. People generally say things to pull you down in order to level the playing field for themselves.  Don’t place your happiness in the hands of such callous people.  Learn how to be indifferent to comments from such people or better yet try to avoid the company of negative minds.  If you happen to find yourself in the presence of someone who spews negativity, don’t automatically accede to them out of fear of losing their friendship.  Instead try to be the voice of reason and tactfully deflect the negativity by guiding them along a more positive thought process without being dismissive or insensitive.
“I will not let anyone walk through my mind with their dirty feet.” ~Mahatma Gandhi


  • Give your mind a purpose:Follow a hobby, or do something you loved to do as a child. Pursue something you have always passionately desired to do, but kept putting off because life got in the way.  This will give your mind a purpose and keep it from straying to negative thoughts.  
“Nothing contributes so much to tranquilize the mind as a steady purpose – a point on which the soul may fix its intellectual eye.” ~Mary Wollstonecraft Shelley, Frankenstein, 1818


  • MeditateThe three gunas –sattva, rajas and tamas are present in all human beings in varying degrees and are the reason for the diversity we see in everyone. A predominance of rajasic guna gives rise to ambition, restlessness, anxiety, passion, anger, greed, jealousy and selfishness.  A predominance of tamsic guna manifests as ignorance and sloth.  Meditation increases the sattva guna or the pure and virtuous quality of the mind.  A predominance of sattva guna gives rise to wisdom and knowledge and promotes spiritual evolution. Meditation helps purify the mind and promotes deep relaxation, peace, tranquility, good health, and happiness. Meditation undoubtedly by itself has the power to establish a positive frame of mind in the most effortless manner. 
“To a mind that is still, the whole universe surrenders.” ~ Chuang Tzŭ

Summary of How to Eliminate Negative Thinking

If you are suffering from negative thinking I hope you will put the advice Yachna has given above to good use.  Even implementing a few of these techniques would be helpful in breaking the negative thought patterns and ushering in positive thinking.  I hope you enjoyed this article and once again here is Yachna’s blog for you to enjoy and learn from – Yachna Yoga ( 

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  1. mark
    mark says:

    Must add that an article like this should (necessarily) include familiarization with one’s natal chart. Your moon could be afflicted. To the degree (pun) it is, the more the challenge towards a peaceful mind. My moon is “hemmed” twixt saturn and mars… it’s been fun.

  2. mark
    mark says:

    Nothing new here but A for effort. Good point just above however. I’ve read that idea countless times; we are what we think. May be better to say we tend to follow the tracks our subconscious beliefs have made.
    One thing I’ve noticed while practicing some of the above. Your body or attention gets used to whatever tech employed. Once that happens I find that the technique loses it’s efficacy. Like following your breath. Once you get used to that any negative thinking will reassert itself.
    Seems to me purpose is everything. If you’ve got your mission you’re mostly set. But many are clueless as to what their “purpose” is.
    We are all here, in fact, due to the life force. Meaning may start and end right there. If so, many are simply dragged around by their own karma. Well, That is the case in any event. Etc.

  3. veena
    veena says:

    superb article!so very clear & well explained.i hav heard these things earlier also but was not inspired but this article has touched me deeply.i already started folowing it .THANKS!!!!!!!!!!

  4. R Sureshkumar
    R Sureshkumar says:

    It is really appealing and hope this will usher in healthy , calm and elevated level of tranquility and happiness.

  5. Don in the USA
    Don in the USA says:

    The beautiful (and most challenging) aspect of living is that our beliefs create our reality, beliefs and assumptions about the nature of reality, and because we create what we believe in, we have many “proofs” that this reality operates the way we think it does. It is helpful to understand that energy follows thought. What ever you pay attention to grows and increases. Your thought precedes your physical manifestation.

  6. Christian
    Christian says:

    Quite an article. But would you really say that you are what you think? I would say that you experience your thoughts but that you are something beyond the thoughts.

  7. Mahindra Raj
    Mahindra Raj says:

    I love the way Yachna incoporated the quotes into the article. Great job and great article! Yoga does promote positive thinking as it has been established that yoga is not just a fitness program but a way of life. I shall keep into heart these words and I hope a lot more will be able to read this.

  8. drbhupalsingh
    drbhupalsingh says:

    my dear Yachna,
    we are very pleased and delighted to see your another article on this subject. we congratulate you for this achievement. hope, you continue writing such articles again and again in health magazines and benefit the society. you are a very good writer who can very effectively convey her message clearly to the users of all standards. with best wishes,

  9. karen
    karen says:

    Thank you for sharing this article with your students ~~ very enlightening and helpful. God Bless you all.

  10. dvv.prasad
    dvv.prasad says:

    this is a lovely article of yachana ji… my heartfelt pranams to her… what a fine article to read early in the morning (bangalore city circa 2012 july, 11th 9.00 am)


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