How to Make a Baby the Right Way- With Illustrations!
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The Right Way to Make a Baby
Tantra Series: Spirituality and Sex
As many of my friends and family members can attest to, I had my parents quite nervous about whether or not I would ever get married and have a family. No one was quite sure when I would run off to the Himalayas and I am sure there was some pretty heavy betting going on, with high odds that I was going to do just that. Well, I am glad I didn’t run off, as there was never any need to and I am glad I decided to get married and make babies :-).
Now, my wife probably lost quite a bit of dough in the betting circles, when I completely floored her by proposing. That is a good story in itself, but, lets move ahead. She knew that I was quite unconcerned with social norms, but, having children out of wedlock just meant a whole mess of legal headaches. So, since we thought children were a good idea, marriage followed next. Now came the fun part. Little did we know what we were in for when we decided to ask, “What is the right way to make babies?”
Given we come from the culture that gave us the Kama Sutra, it was no surprise that the answer to our question arrived directly from ancient Hindu Scriptures, the Vedas. They came in the form of Garbhaadhaan Sanskar, or the Sacrament of Conception, which is part of the Sanskar Vidhi (which outlines the 16 milestones in human life). Being that we are always up for something interesting we decided why not. It involves spirituality, love and sex… can’t go wrong with that… and oh yeah, something about making babies too :-).
I can’t possibly provide the full details of this complex Sacrament in this article, but, I do want to give you a flavor for what it’s like and what it entails in case you and your partner are thinking about having some little ones and also asking the dangerous question, “What is the right way to make babies?”
The main reason for following this ritual is not just to have children, but, to have children that are outstanding. Here are the highlights of this process.
1. Preparation:
The Garbhaadhaan Sanskar acknowledges the role of both heredity and environment in the creation of a human being. Since the conception has to do with the sperm and the ova, the first step is a process of strengthening and purification. Guys this means no sex or wastage of semen for at least 40 days minimum. Need to get those swimmers in tip top shape and need to build your virility and vitality. In addition, the purification also calls for a pure sattvic diet and relaxed, happy, spiritual life style. So no drinking and excessive late night partying during this time. This goes for the ladies as well in order to prepare her body for a healthy pregnancy.
2. Havan (Prayers):
This was an adventure. On any day we decided to have sex to try to conceive, it is required to do a Yagna (a fire ceremony). The Havan is meant to be done before sunset and it incorporates a series of Shlokas (Mantras or Chants). These mantras are essentially praising the wife (helps to set the mood ;-), saluting natural forces, asking for a healthy pregnancy and requesting a child who would be extraordinary.
Since the last part is the most important let me give some details regarding that. Essentially the Mantras request that the child born should be…
- Exceptional.
- Live well for a 100 years (which is a favorite Hindu blessing and even part of Indian Happy Birthday Songs).
- Be protected from the heavens, cosmos and earth.
- See God in everything.
- Be able to comprehend the True Nature of Reality.
The Havan had to be done. Now all married couples know that there are days you may not want to sing the praises of your partner, but, if you were planning to make a baby that night, you were chanting, “Oh Lady, your heart is like the Moon in heavens…”, as she was trying her best to hold you in high regard and respect. The other challenge with the required Havan was that there were days when we were racing against the sunset to get it done. I have to confess, that on more than one occasion we did convince ourselves that our abridged version of the ritual was just as effective :-P.
3. When To Have Sex!
Yes the Sacrament guides you on which days to have sex. Moreover, it lays out which days to have sex if you want to conceive a male child and which day to have sex if you want to conceive a female child. The texts do not guarantee this result, but, they do indicate that if adhered to, it gives you a good chance to get what you want. Here are the magic numbers…
Male Child: Days 6, 8, 10, 12, 14 & 16 from commencement of menstruation.
Female Child: Days 5, 7, 9, & 15 from commencement of menstruation.
No other days are good for conception and there are a few black out days as well depending on the phase of the moon.
Now let me tell you guys, sure it sounds great having a guarantee of getting some action on a particular night. After all, we did the Havan and chanted “Oh Lady, your heart is like the Moon in the Heavens…”, but, as the days go on and you get to day 16, after not conceiving during the previous 2 menstrual cycles… sleep seems like an awfully good idea! You tend to lovingly look at each other and say…. Ummm…. Goodnight Sweetheart and… a perfectly good Havan goes wasted.
Summary:
So we followed all the requirements of this Sanskar trying for a male child and to tell you the truth, I am glad we did. Here is how number 1 turned out. His name is Shivum. Of course he needed company and my wife, Trupti, wanted him to have a brother. So yes it was back to more chanting about her and the Moon… and along came Taran. Here are the results of all that hard work… which we are very, very happy with!
In the next part of this series we will go into the details of Diet and Nutrition for Making a Great Baby.
SHIVUM
TRUPTI (TARAN BEFORE :-), SHIVUM & ANMOL
TARAN AFTER
Does sex ever give you diseases?
Mariana,
Yes, agreed. Specially concerned with early abuse of the body with drinking these days…
Glad to are enjoying the site.
Love and Light,
Trupti
Wonderful article! The partying part is very important. Women and men should think about their health and spiritual wellbeing. Excellent! and beautiful children! God bless you and your family! Love your videos and thank you for your work!!! :)))
Neha,
Thank you for your comment. Glad you are enjoying the read :)
Trupti
Hi Anmol,
u have really interesting things written here…
keep posting more such issues..
regards..
nice one! keep it up..
nice!
hello anmol. i’m really happy to hav found u as someone who preaches YOG and not some fraud. we find millions of people around who keep fooling us in the name of spirituality or of yog. but the way u tell people the techniques of & the benefits one can reap from yog is really commendable. ur simple techniques are very helpful in the day 2 day life & help us become a better person. u seem to hav understood the real meaning of yog. just one request : since the genesis of this great blessing is INDIAN it should be pronounced the INDIAN WAY as YOG & NOT YOGA which is an english distortion(apabhransh) of the actual word. IT IS A HUMBLE REQUEST, THE FINAL DECISION IS COMPLETELY YOURS THOUGH.
Marge,
Thank you !!
Glad to hear you got what you wanted :-)))
Love and light,
Trupti
Hi Anmol
Congrats , very nice family
I conceived my boy on 14thday and my girl on 7th day as you have explained – At that time I vaguely heard about it , I just tried and it really worked !!
May God bless you all
i smoke weed :D
Great article, as usual, just not the illustrations I was expecting, though! I found the days of menstruation relative to the sex of the baby particularly interesting.
Huh, that’s quite interesting, I had no idea there was a tantric method for making babies, good to know.
Great post…. Love this guy.
Hi Andy,
I would love to have girls too and I certainly don’t feel they are a liability or anything. In fact if we were younger we would have had many more little ones and I assure you there would be a mix of boys and girls. We still sometimes feel we should have some more and go for girls this time. I would love to have a daddy’s little girl for sure :-).
My wife wanted to go for a boy first and then for number two, we thought it would be best to have another boy so they could have company and play together. My wife has a sister and she felt that both being girls was better for them from a bonding perspective.
That is all.
Glad you are enjoying the website and thanks for you kind words.
Best,
Anmol
I just want to say, I absolutely love your website :)
you seem like a cool guy, but one question… why did you want two boys?? I wouldn’t expect someone as intelligent as you to conform to such social norms that are present in India even today.. so why boys?? Girls are also a gift from the heavens, also precious..
surely a girl to you would not be seen as some kind of failure or liability??
I would appreciate an answer Anmol :)
God Bless You and your family, and keep up the good work!!
this is all lies i know how to make babies. ok listen. to make a baby u need 2 teaspoons of sperm and 1 bowl of eggs. mix the sperm into the eggs and the sperm will enter the egg. later the egg is evolved and will hatch into a great pokeman which u humans call a baby. thank u
y are there only brown ppl talking??? u guys don’t know how to have babies?? u guys need to get a life, instead of talking bullshit about sex on this shit blog.
Very help full… Thanks a lot
You should always consult a child specilist in sorting things out for your baby rather then inventing things on your own.